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  • in reply to: Locked Up #18702
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    DashingDaisy,

    You have such power with your words and even the silences between them.

    I can truly hear how beaten and overcome you’re feeling by the emotions that seem to be haunting you, and by the battle you’re waging with food. I can only imagine how unbearable it is to have to face eating in order to survive, but to have your body in such pain as a result — like there’s no way at all to win.

    It sounds like you’re utterly fed up with the terrible results that come from eating. Am I understanding you right when I hear that the treatments don’t seem to be helping at all? I bet that would add a layer of discouragement and exhaustion to the pain and stress that you’re already experiencing…

    Those three diagnoses are a lot to face all at once, DashingDaisy, and I can hear how completely overwhelming it is for you to have to deal with them. How are you coping right now?

    Stay connected DashingDaisy; we’re here for you, even if it’s just as a place to express the agony. <3

    The Support Team

    in reply to: Straight downhill #18701
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    Martin,
    There’s a sense in your words of profound exhaustion, like you’re getting fed up with putting energy into keeping your head above the water. It must have dug a deep hole in your trust to find out that your ex was lying to you about something that is as important as her friends who were helping you cope. :( I can hear your agony at seeing so many of your supports crumble when you need them still…. It sounds, too, like it’s hard to want to share your pain with the one friend because so much seems to be good in her life, and it hurts to think that you might be a burden by sharing your feelings.

    The interactions you have with your ex sound bittersweet…like on the one hand it’s somewhat reassuring to know that she cares enough to talk to you about the suicidal thoughts, but on the other side you’re left hanging when you try to connect with her about anything else. I can imagine how hollow it make the moments with her seem, and I’m wondering if that just adds to the pain that you were already feeling?

    The weight you’re carrying is heavy indeed, Martin. I can see how crushingly exhausting it is to keep it up everyday, like Atlas carrying the Earth. Stay strong. <3

    The Support Team

    in reply to: can’t take it #18700
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    Hi Dan,

    I can hear that things are sometimes decent lately, but that the dark times keep coming back too.. I imagine it’s scary to be in those lighter times, and not be sure if/when the pain would come back really strongly again soon. It must be so draining to be going up and down like that. :’(

    I’m sensing that you’ve been able to reach out to one of the people who works for you about what’s going on inside? I can appreciate how much strength it must have taken to talk with them… it sounds there’s always that lingering fear in the back of your mind of not wanting to get too close and get hurt. I’m wondering how opening up to the worker went for you?

    I can really hear how painful it is to see others in relationships Dan, and I’m so glad you’re here talking with us, and to those around you. Your ability to keep fighting is truly inspiring. <3

    Stay strong,

    The Support Team.

    in reply to: I honestly don’t know anymore #18698
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    Hey Zeca,

    I’m happy you found us to unload some of your thoughts and feelings, and hope that it brought at least an infinitesimal amount of relief to the pain you’re feeling before you went to sleep.

    Sounds like you’re really struggling between your wrenching inner world, where all you feel is this pain and this desire to hurt yourself or die, and the smothering outer world that wants so much to help. I get the sense that you understand their desire to help, and wish that you wanted their help.. but at the very core of it all you want is to be free to feel this pain and be left alone.
    I can really feel the guilt your experiencing.. that you want to keep the promise to your mother that you meant in that moment, but that right now it feels impossible. You said you were scared.. I was wondering, do you mean you’re scared of what will happen if you reach out and are honest about your thoughts of suicide? Or scared about what might happen if you don’t?

    I can hear that you’re really feeling ambivalent towards life right now.. and I imagine the worry of what’ll happen when you return to school is making the future seem even more frightening. You’ve said you want to kill yourself, and I’m really worried about you.. I’m wondering if you have a plan for how you’d take your life? I’m also curious what’s been helping you hold onto life?

    Thank you for connecting.. and if you want you can always connect with our live chat to get in the moment support. It’s open 6-11 PM every night.

    <3 The Support Team

    in reply to: can’t take it #18694
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    Hey Dan,

    It sounds like your emotions are taking you on a real ride right now. I get the sense that you’ve been having a lot of bittersweet and sadly nostalgic moments as you look back on the helpers that you’ve had around you. It sounds like it’s exhausting to have to constantly re-explore your painful feelings as people come and go in your life — like when you finally feel like you can be open and trust someone, they leave and another person comes in to their place. :'(

    Sounds as though yesterday was a really dark day filled with a lot of memories and thoughts about the future that felt really bleak and painful. I’m glad you reached out here Dan, in the midst of all that raw emotion. How are you doing now?

    Sending warm thoughts your way,
    The Support Team

    in reply to: Bullying #18693
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    Thanks so much! We sure do…you can find us at https://www.facebook.com/Youthspace.ca <3

    in reply to: Bullying #18691
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    Wow, Kitzlekraver, that’s an amazing video! Thank you so much for sharing. Would you be open to us sharing the link on our youthspace facebook page?

    the Support Team

    in reply to: Straight downhill #18689
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    Hey Martin,

    I can really hear how your feelings of isolation get intensified when you think that you should be happy about grad. It must be really tough to see others so excited about grad when you are feeling so left out by different aspects of this event, like who will you go with, how will you get there…I’m thinking that hearing about other peoples’ plans makes you feel excluded. Seems like all these unknowns are overwhelming you, to the point where life and grad just seem totally disparaging…to the point that death looks like a viable way to avoid the potential pain caused by continuing to live…it scares me to think that you might not be around until grad Martin.

    While you say you aren’t making any specific plans about ending your life, the thought is constantly on your mind. Are there times that these urges to end your life are lessened?

    I get the sense that you are confused about your friends too, and unsure where to turn for support now that these 2 girls might not want to hear what you are thinking. I want to thank you for your courage in continuing to talk about your thoughts of suicide and all the challenges that life is throwing at you Martin. I do worry about you and hope that if your thoughts of suicide become overwhelming, you will reach out and find more support. Have you considered who you would contact if the thoughts become unbearable?

    We are always here for you, in forum or in chat.

    The Youthspace Team

    in reply to: can’t take it #18688
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    Dan,

    Thank you so much for keeping us updated. We do think of you, and it’s a relief to hear that the med’s are helping to weaken your thoughts of suicide. The strength that you have in continuing to ride the waves of life is inspiring Dan. I’m really glad to hear that life is more hopeful right now. Please know that we are here for you in good times and bad.

    Keep on keeping on Dan.

    The Youthspace Team

    in reply to: Locked Up #18687
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    Hi DashingDaisy,

    I appreciate your bravery in sharing more about how being “locked up” is still affecting you. Sounds like you are continuing to struggle with expressing yourself :(

    It must be really hard living like a shaken can of pop with so much inside but no sign of an opening and space to release this tension anywhere. I sense that you really want to address the roots of this internal pain, but the idea of doing so is just too terrifying right now. I can imagine that you are anxious for the fizz to settle in order to get “something” out. Thinking….will this pass on it’s own, or do you have to take action to release all that you are holding inside? I get that you don’t feel comfortable doing what your therapist suggested…yet I’m also hearing that you feel the need to do something because you are aware that you can’t hide this anymore.

    I can hear how ashamed you are for having that ‘out of control’ feeling even though it is out of your control. It’s like if someone finds out, they might see you differently because of it.

    I’m wondering if this “something” is causing your feeling of ‘out of control’ or if it is the pressure of being “locked up”? Also curious if you ever had that feeling before and how you were able to regain back your control?

    Thanks for your openness, even if it feels “locked up”.

    the Support Team

    in reply to: Straight downhill #18683
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    Oh Martin,

    I’m really getting an understanding of how anxious and defeated you feel when thinking of grad. It seems like the prospect of going thru this event which other people are looking forward to has you feeling hopeless in life. I can hear the desperation with which you wish you could avoid grad. The fact that you are considering death as an option to avoid grad has me really worried for you Martin

    Sending strength,
    The Support Team

    in reply to: can’t take it #18681
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    Oh Dan,

    I wish there was something I could say that would pause time and interrupt these feelings and give you the break that you feel you need so badly. Because the depth of the loneliness seems unending, and the thoughts of suicide are so pervasive for you…

    From what you’ve said, it sounds like it’s hard to even care about anything that happens anymore; painful memories haunt you, making you feel like every time that you trust in someone they disappear from your life. And even when you think about getting help for the suicidal feelings, it’s hard to imagine that anyone might REALLY care. It sounds like you know exactly how that situation with the hospital and EMHS would go, and you already know how numbing it would be. :’( It must feel like hope is a million miles away. You say you don’t want to go through that experience, but that it’s also really sad out here…if you get to the point where you are going to end your life, do you think you’ll be able to reach out for help, knowing how it might play out?

    It must feel like you’re locked out of the world around you when you see other people happy in relationships and feel like you can’t have that experience in the same way. I can hear how incredibly draining it is to watch friends get married and feel perpetually reminded of your own pain and solitude.

    We’re all thinking of you, Dan. Stay in touch. <3
    -The Support Team

    in reply to: am i the only one? #18680
    Youthspace
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    Also, thank you for sharing your perspective and ideas, Martin! It’s really creative to think of submitting writing to contests as a way to cope. :)

    in reply to: am i the only one? #18679
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    Hullabaloo22,

    It’s cool to hear that you’re liking this as a place to talk; that’s what we’re here for!

    I can hear just how different you feel from all the people around you, like you’re speaking a different language altogether. There’s a sense in your words of deep frustration that everyone else seems to value a very opposite set of things from those which you consider important… You mention trying to be happy alone, and it gives me an idea of the conflict within you where you want to connect with people who you see everyday, but you don’t want to adopt the habits that seem to be a necessary part of that connection. :(

    I am glad to hear that you’re looking after yourself so gently and finding ways to cope, such as journaling. I can imagine that writing is really cathartic for you…. A way to let off some of the steam, perhaps?

    Stay strong Hullaballoo22. We’re here if you want to keep venting.

    The Support Team

    in reply to: is it serious? #18678
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    Hi Syd,

    Thank you for posting so openly and honestly on our forum. Your courage in sharing everything that you have been going through is admirable.

    I can really hear how worried you are about the impact of these anxiety and panic attacks on your life. Seems like these attacks are causing you a lot of stress right now…just as you thought they were done and a thing of the past, they return out of the blue, in full force. I bet the unpredictability of it all makes this even more stressful and worrisome :S

    It’s great to hear that you have reached out to different people to find support in those anxious moments. I’m glad you’ve got some strategies, but it seems like you don’t have many people supporting you in this fight…I can hear the judgments that you feel from others (parents) which continue to hold you back from talking about this. I can only imagine how powerless and vulnerable you feel when you face these uncontrollable thoughts alone :(

    I’m glad you have connected here Syd…we are here for you. You can Chat in too if you want to talk between 6-11pm PST.

    Your words show that you are a fighter….hang in there Syd and continue to be as strong as you have.

    Take care,
    the Support Team

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