Welcome to Youthspace (: Thank you for your honesty in sharing your story here. I can imagine that your desperation to change these stalking behaviours has driven you here, and I hope this Forum can be helpful for you.
I get how uncomfortable you are with your Facebook interactions, it sounds like you are deeply ashamed, as this spying and trickery is not in your nature. I can imagine you feel really alone with this struggle! So I’m glad you are here. When you say you are having a hard time changing your behaviour, and that you want to stop spending your time on this I’m wondering if you feel slightly compelled or addicted to this avenue of following/hurting your boyfriend’s ex girlfriends?
One of your main concerns is WHY you are doing this to your boyfriend’s exes. I’m curious if you have thought much about this? And what sort of ideas have come to you thus far.
You’re looking for support in changing this habit, and I’m wondering if you would be interested in trying Email-Counselling? If so, you can email a professional youth counsellor from the EMAIL page on our site. Not only is it free, it’s also not face-to-face which might be more comfortable.
Again, we are here for you Susanne. You are also welcome to Chat in the evenings 6-11pm if you live in Canada. Otherwise, I hope to hear from you soon.