Hey anna, welcome to the forum. Seems as though you’re really angry at your boyfriend for betraying your wishes on Canada Day, and that underneath your anger is heartbreak and sadness that he would lie to you. I would guess you feel disrespected that he made the decision to drink some shots that night, knowing how important it was to you that he not drink at all. I can hear how much doubt it has put in your mind that you can trust him with anything after he lied to you about drinking.

It sounds like you’re feeling torn between your raw feelings of betrayal and hurt that he would do this to you, and your hope that you can find a way to trust him and continue your relationship. I get the sense you care about your boyfriend and don’t want to hurt or frustrate him with your feelings, but also don’t want those feelings to just go ignored. What would you say to a friend in the same situation? Would you think they were overreacting? What advice might you give them?

We’re here for you in this frustrating time, anna. I’m glad you came here to talk about it, and know you can continue to count on us to listen

the Support Team