February 2, 2013 at 8:42 pm #16386JSMember
I happily dated a girl for a year and a half. This past June she blind sided me and dumped me over a text message while I was at work two days after I had taken her out for a nice (expensive) dinner and taken her to the baseball game. She moved on and started dating another guy, her friends treat me as though I did something wrong and it sent me into an awful depression.
It took my therapy and a prescription for an anti-anxiety medication to realize that maybe I wasn’t TRULY happy in this relationship as I spent so much more time trying to cater to what she waned rather than focus on us, or me for that matter.
Anyway, I had a few “rebound” girls (who I have not really kept in touch with), but for a while now I haven’t had anything close. It isn’t so much the sex part, but more the idea that I can’t get close to a girl, and I can’t seem to relate to any that hang out with my friends. The online dating thing hasn’t worked, and I am just a bit awkward in person. My brother and sister are both on their way to being married and they are so happy. I sit at a dinner table with all of them in happy relationships and awkwardly have to answer questions about my empty love life. How can I meet a woman that will like me for me again? I am getting to be depressed again and I can’t stand it. How can I be happy?
February 6, 2013 at 4:40 am #18643YouthspaceModerator
Thx for your authenticity in sharing such honest thoughts with us here at Youthspace. I’m glad you are reaching out. I can really hear how hurt you were when your girlfriend ended things between you two. I get the sense that you feel betrayed by how quickly she moved on, while you are left trying to survive in the aftermath of such a shocking breakup.
It sounds like this recent heartache has left a void in your life. I can see how strongly you crave that special connection, how desperately you want to find a compatible partner. I’m imagining that your loneliness is thrown in your face everytime you are forced to hangout with other couples in committed relationships I can only imagine how isolating those moments are. I get the sense that sometimes you feel hopeless…you ask when will you meet someone, how will you be happy…of course I don’t have those answers, but I know that you deserve to be with someone who likes you for who you really are. And, as for happiness, you truly do deserve it.
I’m wondering if there has been anything in the past that has helped you battle feelings of depression. It seems like you have dealt with dark emotions in the past and have won. What worked for you then? I hope these methods of fighting back will help with the struggle…
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