August 15, 2015 at 6:03 pm #22502thisisblueParticipant
Ugh this feels so weird typing to seemingly no one, but I feel like I have no one so this is my last hope. I’m worried that I will sound petty and pathetic… like my problems are so insignificant in the grand scheme of things. My best friend is moving across the country in a couple weeks. I’m so conflicted about it. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I’m happy for her, but I just don’t know what I’m going to do with out her. She’s the only person in the whole world that I feel safe with… that gets me… you know? Once she’s gone, I’ll have no one left. I’m scared of how I will be once I’m alone, yet at the same time I’m afraid to get out there and meet new people. It’s just so stupid. It seems like my heart and mind are vastly overreacting to what should be a very minuscule problem, and I’m failing (and feeling unable) to do anything about it. If I wasn’t such a boring worrywart, I wouldn’t have this problem. If only I was funner…. people would like me more. Oh man, I just feel so lonely right now.
August 15, 2015 at 7:50 pm #22504YouthspaceModerator
Welcome to the Youthspace Forum, thisisblue.
Your best friend moving away sounds as though it’s really turning your world upside down and leaving you feeling really nervous about the future.
You mentioned feeling as though your problems are insignificant and I want you to know that it doesn’t seem that way to me at all! Having someone in our lives who cares about us, and is there for us, strikes me as one of the most important things in life. I can imagine how having that person move away would be absolutely devastating and take a while to get used to.
Correct me if I am way off base here, but it seems like feeling anxious about things is common for you? I imagine that would be draining and make doing things, like going out and making new friends, pretty challenging for you. I am not sure if is something you’d be interested in. It has some useful tips about coping with anxious feelings. No pressure to check it out, if it doesn’t fit for you, I just thought I’d offer it as a possibility :).
It’s so hard feeling lonely and like there’s no one to turn to! I know it is not quite the same thing, but please know we’re always here for you on the forum or on our chat service (6pm -12am PST) if you need someone to talk to.
Stay in touch,
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September 12, 2015 at 6:35 pm #22541thisisblueParticipant
I’m sorry it took me so long to respond. I was a little embarrassed that I put my problem out there for the world to see, and was hesitant to re-visit it.
Thanks for understanding. It is totally devastating. The fact that it’s looming in the near future (and so is always in the back of my mind) is also adding to the ickyness of it all. It’s like even though she hasn’t even moved yet, I can’t stop ruminating on the fact she’ll be gone in one week and am ruining what little time we have left together.
I never really thought about it as anxiety, but maybe. Whatever it is, it’s definitely a feeling I feel a lot. I suppose some coping tips wouldn’t hurt, thanks!
September 19, 2015 at 8:14 pm #22544YouthspaceModerator
We’re glad to hear from you. Sharing what’s going on for us, even anonymously, can feel very vulnerable and I understand how afterwards it might have felt a little embarrassing for you. I imagine it took some courage to share all this with us! I want to assure you, we felt no judgement about your problem and were honoured you reached out to us.
It sounds as though as your friend’s departure date gets closer, it’s becoming more consuming for you. I imagine you’d feel pretty frustrated with yourself that you can’t put the thoughts about your future with out her nearby out of your mind to enjoy her company while she is still here. I can really tell how much you value and care for her. Have you shared how you’ve been feeling with anyone in your life?
We’re always here for you if you need us.
I see that in the previous reply to the link we intended to share (that offered some coping tips) didn't seem to appear! I am sorry about that. I am pasting it again here for you: http://youth.anxietybc.com/
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