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  • in reply to: why doesn’t any one like #19064
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    Hi dj,

    Welcome and thank you for posting so honestly on our Forum. I can really hear the loneliness, pain and frustration you are experiencing from seeing your friends in happy relationships while you are stuck feeling unattractive and unworthy. I get the sense that it leaves you questioning if you are deserving to be cared for and loved because you are currently alone?

    I can imagine how difficult it must be to feel more positively about who you are when you want nothing more than to be with someone who truly gets you and makes you feel special and for some reason, that special someone has not appeared in your life yet. Seems like you think that if you had a good looking boy to date, you would believe your friends when they say that you are pretty.

    I am wondering if there is anything that you can think of that you can do to make yourself feel that you are special, pretty and worth it, something that doesn’t require others? You deserve to feel that way with or without someone dj.

    Please know that we are here for you through your struggles.

    The Support Team <3

    in reply to: I’m alone and done #19062
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    Bri,
    The determination that you show, in coming here to share your feelings given the exhaustion that weighs you down, is inspiring to me.

    I can see that you are struggling really hard right now. Struggling to find reasons to live. Struggling to find people that understand and can provide the support that you need.

    I also see a wealth of strength inside you. Something is keeping you here. Can you tell us what is it that has you holding on? You said you are so tired and you really seem to be at your wit’s end. Do you have a plan to kill yourself Bri?

    If you want to talk in a different way you are able to email our Youth Counsellors via the EMAIL button at the top of our site. Or you can Chat at CrisisChat.org

    I am so thankful that you are still here with us Bri. I’ll be holding you in my thoughts.
    <3 The Support Team

    in reply to: Insanity #19061
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    Hey Sparrow,
    Thank you for sharing yourself here. I can really hear how meaningless life feels when you are working so hard to simply “survive from minute to minute”. I can only imagine how cold this loneliness makes your life. Like the people surrounding you cannot understand what happens inside the walls of your heart. Your words are raw with pain and isolation. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and ask for help Sparrow. You are truly a warrior.

    Your recent turn to self-harm has you feeling completely unhinged, like some crazy force has taken over. I get the sense that substituting self-harm for certain eating rituals is not something that you want to continue doing. Are there other distractions or strategies that you see as being options in those moments when the urge to use your rituals grabs you?

    You mentioned that “recovery” is not a good word to use since it feels so exhausting and lacks any sort of break. Can you think of any other words that would hold more truth for the feelings associated with your battle against this eating disorder?

    I’m glad to hear you have one therapist who really gets you Sparrow. Know that we are here for you too.
    <3 The Support Team

    in reply to: I dont know what to do #19059
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    Hi Sophiexx,
    No need to apologize for taking a while to respond — the Forum is here for you when you need it. And it sounds like you really need it today, so I’m glad you felt comfortable coming back.

    I really get the impression that there’s a war raging within you — a part of you longs to end the suffering that has come with your depression that feels as though it will go on forever. Meanwhile, another part of you yearns to find some way, anyway — to escape from the countdown that’s been running through your head.

    It seems like you’re groping around in the dark for an answer of how to get out of this tunnel you find yourself in, but without any light you remain lost and confused. I would imagine that when your search for relief has been so fruitless, it really seems like you cannot find safety for yourself.

    I can hear how isolated you feel, and that you feel the need for someone to save you. As you know, we cannot provide emergency response over this Forum. Is there anyone that can help you in this fight Sophiexx? Who can you call when you need help?

    We don’t want you to utilize that suicide plan either.
    Stay safe,
    The Support Team

    in reply to: I’m alone and done #19056
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    Hey Bri,

    I can really hear how hurt you still feel by your parents’ reaction to your suicidal thoughts. I can imagine you had a scenario in your mind of how it would go and were really disappointed when they reacted as they did, and more so to see that it didn’t change much, at least not how you hoped. Sounds like you long for a particular style of support that they are unaware of :(.

    Congrats on the auditions! I’m glad that you were allowed to go and that it lifted your spirits for the time being. I’m really sorry to hear about your lap top being taken away, it seems like it is another important tool for coping. Have you thought of what other ways you will be able to fight the urge if the lap top is unavailable? Seems that writing helps a little, it would be unfortunate for you to stop. Maybe you can think of alternative to writing online?

    Our fingers are also crossed for you and our hearts always open.

    The Support Team <3

    in reply to: Insanity #19055
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    Hi Sparrow,

    Thank you for posting on our forum and sharing your beautiful poetry with us.

    I can hear some pretty heavy metaphors in your writing. I get the sense that such artistic expression has some really intense emotions and struggles behind it.

    Please know that you are more than welcome to discuss whatever is going on for you here or in our chat, or you can continue to express yourself with poetry. We want to hear from you in any way you are comfortable.

    With gratitude,

    The Support Team <3

    in reply to: I’m alone and done #19053
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    Hi Bri…it’s been a rough time, hey?

    You might not feel as though it was, but I think that it was hugely brave of you to tell your parents how you were feeling. It sucks that they don’t really seem to know how to help. It must have been awful to go out on a limb, and then find that their response was to think about taking away one of the things that has been helping you cope. That’s not good.

    It’s scary to hear that on Tuesday you were left alone, and had to sit by yourself with the feelings and thoughts that were making you want to end your life. It really illustrates for me what you mean when you say that you regret telling your parents. Knowing that you are feeling suicidal, you must have been hoping that your mom would show concern by not leaving you alone. When she didn’t, you must have felt deserted and saddened, which can’t have helped at all…

    At this point, hiding behind the mask again must seem like a defense against things like that that just add to the pain…something you can’t afford if you’re already struggling to find reasons to keep living. I get that. :( I’m curious…..what kind of support do you think you would have liked from your parents?

    And how do you think you might be able to cope until the next show starts? Are you still able to try the other chat services if things feel really unbearable in the moment?

    Feel free to talk it out here as much as you need to.
    -The Support Team

    in reply to: can’t take it #19050
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    Oh Dan,

    I’m sorry to hear about your Grandfather’s wife — I’d imagine that there might be grief for her loss as well as sadness that you aren’t able to feel a connection with those around you during this time. I hear that you feel those who were once a source of support to you have now faded away and their memories are more like ghosts because you know that, even though they are still alive, they aren’t the people they once were. Perhaps it’s more like you’re frozen and the world moves around you but you’re unable to move with it. I’m really glad to hear that you feel like we understand what’s going on for you Dan, we are definitely here to support you and appreciate that you’ve been brave enough to keep reaching out when you’re feeling so low.

    It sounds like on one hand the pills help you to keep going when you’re in this dark place but on the other hand you question whether getting through life without really connecting to yourself is what you want or need. It seems like Dan Day gives you an opportunity to honour that pain you feel and fear about the possibility that it will never end. It’s as if you have your own private ‘holiday’ to commemorate what your sadness means to you even while there is little support around you. I’m really sorry to hear that you have felt rejected in your attempts to tell the hospital staff how desperate things are for you. It seems like there is a ‘one size fits all’ answer to how you’re feeling but you don’t like the way that answer fits and there is no alternative.

    We are here to listen and to support you Dan as you work through today and the days to come. Sending you hugs and light. <3 The Support Team

    in reply to: I just don’t get it… #19049
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    Hey Shuro,

    I get the sense you’re feeling very betrayed by your boyfriend asking you for a break in your relationship after you already made the sacrifice for him to terminate your pregnancy. I would guess that you’re still reeling from the stress the abortion put you through, and to be left alone in this time is so hurtful for you. Is there anything you’ve been able to do for yourself that helps you cope with all you’ve been through recently?

    It sounds like you’re very skeptical that this break will help your relationship, and infuriated that he would think time apart is more helpful than time together. It seems to me that you’re angry with him for distancing himself and robbing you of the chance to work things out a team. I imagine it’s scary for you to feel him pull away in this difficult time, and to wonder if he might give up on you completely. I imagine he’s been an important component to your supports these past six years…do you have anyone else you can turn to for support during this break?

    We’re glad you came here to talk about it.

    The Support Team

    in reply to: can’t take it #19047
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    Hi Dan,

    When you say you feel like you’ve been shot I get a sense of how deeply the pain is piercing you right now and that death feels right there with you in your pain. It seems that you have watched those you love move away from you in the past year and that this friend you’re letting go of now feels like the last piece of solid foundation beneath you being ripped away. We are here for you Dan to be some solid earth beneath you as long as you need us.

    I can hear how much harder things become for you once the medication leaves your system and you’re without your defenses in battle — I picture you as a wounded soldier and the war rages on around you with no protection and no one helping you to safety. I get the sense that you think you might find some peace or help if you go to the hospital but that no one in your life is willing to help get you there. We are here for you Dan and if you need immediate assistance we are available by chat 6-11pm PST (and midnight on Friday and Saturday nights).

    <3 The Support Team

    in reply to: My journey of healing.. #19046
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    Welcome to youthspace, Heidi09! You have quite a story…thank you for sharing it with us here. :)

    I get the sense that it feels like you’ve been on a wild ride for a long time, tossed about by forces that threatened to overwhelm you. You say that you’ve been to “hell and back”, and I can hear in your words both how agonizing the hell of addiction was at points, and how gratifying it is to have been able to come back from it with the help of the treatment centre. I can hear that it’s still a challenge for you, and I imagine that being away from the people who surrounded you while you were in treatment (your new “family”) is part of the challenge… you must miss them; are you able to keep in touch with those who helped you as you continue with your recovery outside of treatment?

    I believe you when you say that every day of being clean and sober is difficult to manage, so please believe me when I say that I think you show a lot of strength and courage in having made it this far. Know that we’re here to support you if you want to talk as you keep walking this path… we’re here for you on the good days and the bad.

    -The Support Team

    in reply to: I’m alone and done #19045
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    Hey Bri,
    I get that your heart and soul is really fueled by theatre, and this upcoming audition brings hope that you will soon have purpose again.

    You said that life without a show can be hell and we are here if you want to tell us more about what that hell looks like.

    Seems like these next 2weeks may be painfully empty for you. I’m wondering what you can do to take care of yourself in the meantime? What is keeping you going?

    Thank you for writing and letting us know what happened with the audition. You matter to us.

    <3 The Support Team

    in reply to: can’t take it #19043
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    Oh Dan, we just got your message now about your grandfather’s wife, I’m so sorry to hear that :( I imagine death is very much on your mind these days with someone so close to you facing it so soon.

    We think you are doing a tremendous, amazing, admirable job wading through the challenges that life has thrown at you, and we are so, so glad that you do keep going even when it feels like a fight you can’t win. <3

    in reply to: can’t take it #19042
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    I would guess, Dan, that not only are you devastated to lose that person you were able to confide in but you’re feeling betrayed that after she promised you’d never lose her, she left. It seems to me that losing her left a huge hole in your heart, and that even if you could find someone who made you feel as supported as she did you’d be afraid to let them in and risk feeling this pain again.

    It sounds like the meds leave you feeling a bit like you’re in a dream, and that it frightens you to be so out of touch with what real dan might be going through behind the haze of the pills. I imagine it’s a scary thought that the medication is the only reason you’re still alive, although I can hear you are grateful that it has kept you going through some of the darkest moments. Am I right in hearing that even with the pills you are feeling suicidal?

    Sending you thoughts of strength and support <3

    The Support Team

    in reply to: He tried to kill himself #19041
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    Hey charmaine6669, welcome to the forum. I’m glad you found the courage to come here and tell your story, and to ask for help. I’m sorry to hear that all this happened in the days leading up to your birthday :'( I get the sense you were already carrying a huge burden of emotional pain before any of this happened, and now you are completely collapsing into the grief of alienating some of the most important people in your life. I imagine you feel very alone right now, and I want you to know that you have us to rely on when others have turned their backs. We’re here for you.

    It sounds like you feel tremendously guilty for the way things played out, and have been completely taken aback by the way actions and choices you barely had time to comprehend have resulted in a cascade of falling dominoes. It seems as though you’ve been abandoned, sitting in the middle of all these toppled dominoes with no one to help you clean them up or understand how it all happened so quickly.

    I imagine you are mourning the loss of your relationship with your ex, that although you can see there were fault lines in your relationship you weren’t quite ready to let him go, and especially not in the way that it happened. It seems to me that still living with him would make every day a painful reminder of what you’ve lost; do you have anywhere else you can stay? I would guess you also grieve for your best friend and the pain he is going through right now, and can see his pain mirrored in your own. On top of all that, your mom’s reaction must have cut you to the core and felt like the ultimate betrayal, hitting you when you were already down.

    I’m scared for you, to hear how alone you are with your pain and how pressing the thoughts of suicide have become in your mind. It sounds like before your friend attempted to end his life, you felt driven towards seeking help for your own thoughts…but now that drive seems to have left you. Is there anything that’s helped distract you from the thoughts of suicide that you can draw on now to help keep you strong?

    I hope that you will continue to lean on us for support in this difficult time, both here and in the live chat (6pm-11pm PST most days, 6pm-midnight on Fridays and Saturdays). You’ll be in our thoughts.

    <3 The Support Team

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